![]() Do we really imagine that we’ll have a carefree day on Mother’s Day when we still have a houseful of kids, laundry that completely disregards holidays, and (at least for me,) a husband that still has to go to work. ![]() Seriously, expectations might be our worst enemy when it comes to holidays. I won’t open it until Sunday, but guaranteed I’ll love what I get! Last weekend, while Dave and I were on a little date and we happened to go into the mall, I walked him straight to the perfume counter and grabbed the gift box of my favorite perfume and said, “Let’s get this for my Mother’s Day gift.” He hesitated for about a millisecond, and then with a very contented expression, pulled out his debit card and handed it to the sales clerk. If there is something that you’d really love to have for Mother’s Day, why not do the shopping for your family? A restaurant you’d like to go to? Make a reservation! Know your family well, and be a realist. Let your family know what you want and make your own arrangements if you need to. Or maybe you want a day all to yourself on Mother’s Day (I’ve done it. And not that you need these, but just in case could use some tips, I thought this might be the perfect time to share a few things I’ve learned with you.ĭon’t wait for Mother’s Day to decide that you really DO want breakfast in bed. The good news is, my Mother’s Days are no longer a cause for anxiety, or disappointment. □īut now I have no one to blame but my self for saying those words: “I just want time with you guys.” (Big liar.) What I’ve learned: Well, I’ve got four kids now, and this is my 19th Mother’s Day, so fortunately I have learned a few things along the way. I wanted food that I didn’t cook, and dishes that I didn’t have to do. And in a really weak moment, I might have once or twice voiced my dark heart with, “Well, of course I said I didn’t want anything–Don’t you know that means I want everything?”Īnd suddenly the truth is out there: I really did want to be spoiled on Mother’s Day. By Sunday afternoon, I might just find them seeping out into full exposure and suddenly I’m in a sad state of self-pity. What do they call it? Hidden expectations? And as hard as I try to stuff them, they begin to bubble up. I give myself some pep-talks about being unselfish and content, and I almost believe it.īut somewhere deep down in me there is that thing. So Sunday-Mother’s Day comes around and I’m mentally prepared to not think about myself. In fact, I try not to consciously think any of that, because that is soooo selfish and greedy. Oh, and some chocolate.”īut of course I don’t say any of that. ![]() I also want a clean house, a few gifts, and a massage. What I really meant to say was “I want to sleep in, go to church as a family, and be taken out for breakfast lunch and dinner. I just want to spend some time with you guys.” Which is really a dumb thing to say because that’s pretty much what I do every day of the week, and well… you know. (Wouldn’t it?) But here’s how it typically goes: And this is just me, because I know that you’re waaaaaay more mature than I am.Įach year, I start the pre-Mother’s Day week well: I send cards, order flowers, or whatever Dave and I are going to do for our moms…And it never fails, that sometime during the week one of the kids in my family asks: “What do you want for Mother’s Day?” To which I say something like, “Oh nothing. ![]() I mean, it would be totally selfish of me to be thinking about myself right now…dropping heavy hints to my husband and children, and hoping that maybe my family will remember to spoil the living daylights out of ME on Mother’s Day. So…it’s safe to assume that we’re all focused on taking care of our own Moms this week, right? We’re reminiscing about special times with our moms, and sending them sweet notes or gifts, and maybe planning to do something nice for them on Mother’s day.īecause that’s what grown-up, thoughtful women like us do, right? 9.2K Shares 5 Tips for avoiding Mother’s Day Disappointment - A post from the archives (2018 perhaps?…) HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY WEEK! ![]()
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